So I’ve been depressed. You may have noticed.
It’s permeated the blog my personal life and my writing.
It started after I had too much to drink in front of my kids and got sick, so since June.
I don’t usually drink to excess like that and it freaked me out. I stopped for almost 3 months.
Wednesday night I had a drink and it felt good to have it and not care who’s going to judge me for it, I’m at the point I don’t care.
What I have done is make up rules for when I drink.
I can’t have a shot because I’m stressed. I have to deal with my shit and what’s causing me stress.
I can’t use it as medication. Which means when I’m at a family function, I won’t be drinking.
In the past, as I mentioned last week, I’ve done this. I’d drink so I could ignore how people have treated me in the past.
Now I won’t drink or I won’t attend those events.
My wife said it was okay that I wanted to drink and it’s not like I drink to get hammered.
That night in June I drank so I could deal with shit. I had people at that event that I’d either not talk to or that if I said what I really wanted too it wouldn’t go over well.
So, since that event, I’ve barely been writing. It’s not that the alcohol fueled my writing it was that my mind wasn’t there.
I was constantly worrying about drinking and how people would look at me if I went back to it.
After discussing this with my wife she said, “Don’t worry what others think. It’s more important what you think.” And that’s why I’ve been married to this amazing woman for 20 years.
She knows me better than I know myself. She understands me.
She gets it!
Since I accepted that it’s more important what I think, I’ve wrote 6,000 words in two days.
Accepting yourself for who you are, not who others want you to be for their convenience, is a breakthrough for me.
I’m having a better week and I hope you are too.