Life runs through the woods, often being chased by wolves. We stand still, waiting for life to pass through the woods, outrun the wolves and tear into a clearing of pure light.
Life reminds us often that no matter what we change, there will always be those who don’t like change. These people are comfortable with who we are, they know how we’ll react in certain instances and when we do change they try to talk us out of change.
“You’re not really leaving.”
“You don’t need to quit—enter substance—it helps.”
They do these things out of comfort. It’s not truly anything against the person you’ve become.
It’s the instance of who you are now and the fact they were comfortable with the person you were. They knew that person, or thought they did.
When I began TM 10 months ago, it wasn’t the people who accepted me for the changes that surprised me, it was the people who’d make comments about, “something wrong with you” or “what are you taking?”
Each small fraction of these comments started to make me think about who these people are and how I should deal with the fact they weren’t liking the person I’d become.
There are always going to be people who don’t like who you are, that’s a fact of life. But, the people who noticed you when you were the other person, really noticed you, those are the ones who will be supportive of any changes you go through. Those people don’t care as long as you’re happy in your own skin.
There is truly nothing you can do about the other people. They liked the other person because of what you brought to the table. All the things that create a relationship.
What those people didn’t understand about you then, is that you didn’t like who you were and they never saw that part of you.
The people you let in, the ones you talk to daily, the people you’d do anything for, those are the people who love you regardless, the other people want you to be the same.
Change scares people. It makes them uncomfortable and when we find discomfort in things, we begin to hate them.
Change in yourself is what’s important, that change that makes you wake up, get out of bed, meditate, exercise and become who you want to be. That change is the important part of who you are and who you’ll become after those other people are still in their same lives, doing the same things.
Those who crave change, who need to become something else, we are the ones who do things that make life better for others.
I never understood that last part until I started receiving messages about how my posts about TM have helped people and how what I wrote led people to learn the Transcendental Meditation Technique.
If I can help one person with every post about TM and what led me to practice it, I believe I’m helping the world be a better place.
Remember, no one can cause you pain without your permission. Never give them the permission. It’s your life, run it!