As a child I remember my father critiquing me for anything he believed I did wrong. If I stood with my hands on my hips, “That looks Gay”, or when I’d get bad grades, “You’re stupid.”
This type of critiquing didn’t go well with my creative side, it impeded it.
Now that I have kids and don’t say those things to them, I learned more about what is a good critique and a bad one and how TM figures in to my writing.
The one thing about TM, is that I no longer care as much about the past, or the future. I’m finally able to live in present, and with the present I’m able to handle criticism a lot better.
I recently got my edits back from an editor, though they’ll change the way I write, they’ll also let me grow as a writer, which is more important.
The edits were on a draft of a novel I wrote and they’re what I’ve wanted to hear from someone who knew what they were talking about.
I’ve attended Meet-Ups, but a lot of them are just a bunch of people gathered to drink at a bar, which may be fun for those who aren’t serious about the craft, but for me they limited what I wanted to do and they were detrimental to my craft.
I knew going in to writing that I needed work, and with the notes I received, I know what I need to fix, and I’m also now more aware of my writing issues.
I no longer live in a world where I care if I’m berated for not cleaning my room, but that prepared me for writing more than anything.
As a kid I had to have thick skin, but I also became aware that I could write to escape things, which went hand-in-hand.
TM allows me to worry less about the critiques I received in the past and let me focus on my present writing issues.
Being critiqued is part of writing, and being critiqued well are the best kind of critiques.
Before TM I was fearful of being critiqued and based what I knew on my experience with my father.
I now know that a critique should be a lesson and not a reprimand.